Posts Tagged ‘change’

They say, if you wish to make a change in your lifestyle, you need to find a way to do it, 21 days in succession.

Say you want to change your sleeping time, or you want start a new diet, or a new time to have your meals, etc. What you need to do is to force yourself (or find a way, anyhow) to do it for 21 days. Consistently. And you should be into the new system. Ingrained into you. Formed as a new habit. Used to it. Into it.

Well, I hope that it right.

Because I have myself embarked on a journey of change. And I am into it, for last 7 days. And looking to do it for the next 14 days as well. And hoping that these 21 days then, make it a full fledged habit, and a change in lifestyle, for good.

And what are the changes I am working on?

1. I am sleeping early. Early for me, is in the 11 pm – midnight band. As against, 1-2 am that used to be the norm.

2. I am looking to sleep at least 7 hours. Again, as against 5:30-6 hours that I was averaging.

3. Once I get up in the morning, I desire to NOT do regular work, but instead, catch up on some reading, listen to podcasts, catch up on RSS feeds, perhaps write blog posts or other stuff. But NOT get into routine emails and stuff like that.

4. Then, in the morning, go for a morning walk or alternately, do some other workout. Minimum of 30-45 min.

5. Generally, eat healthily. I am not off all fried or sweet food. But just conscious enough to have small helpings and avoid when I can. So control to that extent.

6. Have meals at reasonable hours. Somehow find the time, even in the middle of back to back meetings, to do lunch and not wait till 5 pm, to grab something to eat!

Yes, these were urgent needs at my end. So set things on the right path.

And I have done a decent 7 days of this, including a Sunday. And looking forward to 14 more days, as a first target. And thereafter, hoping for the theory to hold true. That it becomes a natural way of life.

Have you had any such experience on the 21-days rule? How did it go for you? And what do you think of my new resolutions? 🙂

A child is open to learn new things. Evolve. Change. If she does not know cycling, she is willing to learn. If she has never gone on a bus alone, she is willing to try it out. There is a first time that she goes to the stage and addresses a group. All it takes is a little convincing that she CAN do it. And some coaching which she is open to receive.

I don’t know what happens to human beings as they grow older, but I see so many – or most, in fact – getting resigned to their fate. How many times have I heard the words, “I am like that only” or versions of that statement.

Someone says, “I am not very organized. Never have been”. Another says, “I cannot be aggressive” even as she carries a sales and marketing profile! From people who can never be on time, or those who can never give up smoking, there is just so much ‘resignation’ to one’s existing being.

I know change is difficult. And old habits die hard. But OF COURSE, we can change! And we need to keep working at it. Whatever be the age, we can attend courses, read self-improvement books, take coaching, in short – expose ourselves to what we can be – and in doing so, we can certainly keep chipping off our old being, and become different. Become what we would like to be. One only needs to work at it, to give it a genuine shot, and change happens.

I know for sure, I am very different from the person that I was, 10-15 years back. For me, besides books and reading, which I have talked about earlier, the few life-changing events have been:

  1. Being away from home for the first time, when I went to pursue MS in the US, feeling homesick enough to want to come back home, sticking out, fighting it out, doing odd jobs, being self dependent, working there, and ultimately, having a rewarding stint in the US,
  2. In the family business, venturing into a new business of merchant exports, lugging a bagful of samples and doing cold-calls in Singpore, striking a few deals, and getting the business going,
  3. Venturing into yet another new business, at an early stage of it’s evolution in India, viz. the AC Drives, finding a source for these abroad, visiting and finalizing the deal, getting started with imports, and building it up into a decent business over time,
  4. Doing a Dale Carnegie program based leadership course, called MILT; an amazing experience, and one that potentially had the biggest impact in my life,
  5. Done a follow up Dale Carnegie program on Sales techniques; as part of this, I had to make 10 cold-calls each week, for about 6 weeks, even as I was already “senior management”. An amazing learning experience,
  6. Venturing to start up an Internet business way back in 1998, and then going through through the ups and downs, over 9 years, including some tough years; specifically, fund raising, working with a partner, working with investors in your company, working with expensive senior employees, negotiating on M&A opportunities, morphing the business many times over… oh, it was rich and rewarding,
  7. Post-divestment of our stake in the startup venture, and for the first time in my working life of nearly 20 years, I proceeded to work for someone else – yeah, took up a job – had always worked for myself. That has been a learning experience, and managing to adjust well, and deliver well, has again contributed to growth.

All these are of course, in addition to the learnings that normal life gives – being a son, being a father, being a husband, being a neighbour, a friend.. everyday is a learning experience, if you want to make it a learning experience.

The point about all these incidents / events in life, and then about the various books and articles that I read, is that I first WANT to get better, to improve, to overcome the weaknesses and shortcomings that I have, and then I keep working towards them. There is of course, a long way to go. But I am chipping away, and I feel good about it.

And I assure anyone who wants to, that there is nothing to the statement, “I am like that only”. You can NOT be like that, if you don’t want to. Just try.. you will be pleasantly surprised!!

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